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PIF_7067If you asked people, “Would you like this world to be a better place? Would you like people to be happier?” most would say, “Of course.” But the notion of making this world a happier place is totally overwhelming. It makes us think we have to do something ‘big’ like solve world hunger, find a cure for cancer, or raise the next President. But that’s not actually true.

We have the power to make a big impact on the world just by our interactions with the people in our daily lives. “Big” world change doesn’t start with grand solutions, big shifts happen one heart at a time. You touch one person, they touch another, and they another and the domino effect does all the work. Read More

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SmileSome days the skies are grey, the world seems like it’s on your shoulders, and no matter what you do you just can’t seem to catch a break. These are the days that you could use some cheering up. Times that you daydream about taking a vacation to Tahiti, think about quitting your job or feel like disappearing under the covers to watch hours of bad reality TV.

We all have these kinds of days.

As human beings, it is impossible to be happy all the time. It’s normal to have emotions that make you feel mad and sad. While you don’t want to stay stuck in the dumps, feeling emotions like anger and sadness is healthy. The trick is to touch those feelings, have the emotion, and then turn your frown upside down!

Most of us, however, weren’t given the tools to elevate our emotions in healthy ways. Thankfully we live in a time where you’ve been told that things like yoga, meditating, and going for a walk can clear your mind and boost your happiness levels. And maybe you have even tried these and found how beneficial they can be.

But there is another way to transform negative feelings into happiness that is usually overlooked and under utilized, but has the ability to turn your mood around in mere minutes. Read More

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WomensDay2015_2We women are so busy we rarely have the time to slow down long enough to appreciate and acknowledge the women in our lives who we admire, who inspire us and who we just plain adore. Which is why I love to celebrate days like International Women’s Day on March 8th — it gives you permission to say what your heart feels but you don’t always express.

Since 1911, International Women’s Day has been a time to shine the spotlight on women – to celebrate our achievements collectively, to honor the progress we’ve made, and to acknowledge the courage and determination of our ‘sisters’ –- mothers, daughters, friends, teachers, mentors, leaders.

Take a moment to pause and think about the women in your life who have shaped you, supported you, cheered you on, guided you, inspired you and been there for you over the years.

What would you choose to say to these women on this day?

How could you honor their contribution to your life?

And do so in a way that honors you too?

No need to stress yourself out with grand gestures. Try one these simple but mighty acts in honor of her, and yourself.

  1. Admire Her Feminine Power with Flower Power. Rutgers University did a study on the power of flowers, and found that having flowers around has a long-term positive effect on our moods — flowers make us feel less depressed and agitated and give us a higher sense of enjoyment and life satisfaction. Since most women are overwhelmed, sending flowers to remind your special sister of her power and beauty is an easy act to take. Plus the flowers will keep reminding her of her feminine power even after March 8! Include some words about the flowers you choose and how they reflect what you admire in her. Did you know that different flowers have different meanings? Click here for a list.

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Grow New Buds

by Christine Arylo on November 1, 2014 at 2:05 pm

SAF_LLAF_GrowBuds_404X404Did you ever notice that most women have friends, but few of us have been educated on how to grow and cultivate friendships that nourish, grow deeper over time and ultimately give more than they take? Even if we have friends we’ve known for years, or we have a lot of friends in number, most women lack – and crave – deeper soul sister connections. In my work with women around the world as a coach and relationship expert, I hear again and again how lonely women are for meaningful, truly supportive friendships, or how often they hang onto the wrong friendships, just like staying in the wrong romantic relationship, and so there is no space for new buds to come in.

The truth is that just like things in nature, like flowers and plants, there is a season for everything. Annuals come back year after year, while some only bloom once. And we are okay with that, because we know if we plant new buds in the ground, new flowers bloom. We could learn a lot about friendship from flowers. Every friendship has a season, some a lifetime, others years and some just a few months — and when we let one friendship go, another will bloom in its place. Some flowers go together better than others, just like people, and the best flower arrangements come from intention and creativity. Flowers do better when loved and cared for, and when they are planted or presented in bunches, or grow together in fields or gardens.  Read More

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Open Up

by Christine Arylo on August 11, 2014 at 8:58 am

SAF_LLAF_OpenUp_404X404As a person who has dedicated her life to teaching people how to love well, I can say that most people I meet admit to me they would love to have more loving relationships, in which they feel loved – appreciated, cared for, and seen. Just like a flower needs water and sun to flourish, we humans need to give and receive love in order to truly thrive. The challenge is that unlike flowers, who naturally open themselves up to receive the sun and water on a daily basis, we humans default to keeping our hearts protected, so the love we seek has a hard time getting in. While we desire love, most of us are too scared of the vulnerability that opening our hearts requires.

Wow, can we learn a lot from a flower! Those smart buds don’t think twice about letting the sun and water in, they just open up and receive what they need to be nourished. What would it be like for you to open up your heart more, so that when love does show up, you could receive the love you seek instead of pushing it away or only letting a little in?

Build your love receptor muscles little by little, starting with sources of love that are guaranteed safe. For example, start interacting with things that are naturally loving. Did you ever notice how when you are around babies, puppies or flowers, that your heart opens up almost automatically, and love just comes pouring in? This is because these things have no fear factor. You feel safe opening your heart.  Read More